When meeting new people one of the first questions that many ask is “What do you do”? The response is typically something centered around our jobs. I get it, we often spend so much of our time at work that we begin to associate our identity with it. I was very angry a while back. In my opinion I was not where I wanted to be in my career, and I was shocked at the impact this reality had on other areas of my life. I decided to take control at that moment and not let my career define who I was or impact my life in a negative way. I am so much more than my profession and so are you. We have far too many passions, skills, and interest to only be defined by a job.
I love being a Career Coach & Resume Writer, but focusing on the same thing all the time can be very boring. When running a business it’s important to build a brand that people can follow. However, too much of anything is never good. People don’t want to see the same thing over and over. It gets old. When you become predictable, interest in your product wanes. That’s why it’s so important to have balance in life. In the grand scheme of things, my family and trying to live a life full of purpose and love are my top priorities. My faith is very important to me as well. I am amused when I see people on LinkedIn who get so upset with people for daring to share anything other than career related material. Although we don’t want LinkedIn to turn into Facebook, people aren’t one-dimensional and shouldn’t be held to silly standards of professionalism.
Embrace Every Part Of You
When self-esteem and fulfillment are connected to your job (to the point that job performance becomes a measure of who you are), that is a huge problem—and a sign of imbalance. It’s unhealthy to assign so much of our personal identities to our careers; when we do we shrink our potential by focusing on one segment of life: work. If you were to tell someone your hobbies in response to the question, “what do you do”, they would more than likely be thrown off. We may “do” one thing to provide for ourselves and our families, but we all have so many things we care about that brings us joy. I love to travel and enjoy anything associated with muscle cars. I am a husband, father, son, and friend. I am very passionate about helping people in the inner-cities to have a better quality of living, and I desire to live a life pleasing to God. My most important job is to be a great husband and father. We must learn to embrace every part of who we are. If we focus totally on success in our careers, we risk missing out on time with family and friends and other interests that are important. If you neglect spending time with people you care about in favor of working long hours to achieve career success, you may find that you have no one to share that success with. Get back to a long lost hobby, and discover new ones. Spend time with family, make time to travel, and get out of your office. We are so many other things than just our job titles, and it’s time to embrace each aspect of who we are.
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